I Went Naked Speed Dating

No you don’t need to do a double take on the title! Last Thursday I attended the UK’s first ever Naked Speed Dating Event, hosted by Date In A Dash at The Exhibit in Balham. I was front and centre amongst 30 other single men and women, between the ages of 23 and 35, who dared to bare all in the name of finding love and shaking up the dating scene. No matter what anyone says physical attraction is a strong basis of any relationship, and this was a chance to reveal who was attracted to who without all the bullshit that comes with dating.

When I heard about Naked Speed Dating my first thought was who on earth would want to attend such an event, would it be filled with a bunch of pervs who just want to ogle some naked bodies, would it be filled with models with perfect bodies whilst the larger girls like myself look on embarrassed and hidden in a shadows. As a 5’2 29 year old, with gravity endured breasts and a size 14-16 body, I couldn’t think of anything worse than baring all to a room full of strangers… Cut forward 24 hours and having told two of my girlfriends about the email I had received I found myself so intrigued that I couldn’t not go. So with a shaking hand and a racing heart I said yes to attending.

On the event’s details it explained that on arrival girls would retreat to one room with the boys in another, where you would undress and receive a robe, from Matalan and very comfy I might add. We would then line up in two rows, guys opposite girls and reveal ourselves to each other, with how much you revealed being completely up to you. You could be brave and bold and bare all or keep your underwear on, and then we would all get dressed, compose ourselves and the speed dating would begin. I was asked by the friends that I had told whether the dates would be naked and whilst I stated no as per the events details, on the night I realised just how wrong I was.

I arrived at the venue far too early and rather than potentially being seen gawking outside like a weirdo, or doing the normal thing of just sitting inside and having a drink I found myself walking the streets of Balham on the phone to my friend convincing myself that it was a great idea that I was about to go and stand in a line being flashed whilst I stripped off to my underwear. I had decided I didn’t quite have the confidence to go fully nude, and had bought myself a new set of underwear from Boux Avenue, but was still mulling over whether to just forgo the bra as I do have a nipple piercing but keep my knickers on.

When I finally found my lady balls and went inside I arrived at the same time as a guy who was attending, dared by a friend they had both signed up but said friend had bailed on him last minute and so he said he had a point to prove by still coming (and a £10 bet to win). Rob greeted us on arrival and was extremely welcoming, although it was assumed we were a very out there couple who had come together to spice things up. As is custom I zoned in on the first girl I could find that was also there alone for some moral support and soon after a third girl joined us. It turned out they were both journalists, and what with me and my little blog we had something instantly in common and became a trio for the night. Ali was planning on just wearing knickers whereas Harriet had decided that as she’d made it through the door and this far she was going to bare all, and after some nudging from both I happily bowed to peer pressure and agreed to go naked too.

We were taken into a cosy little cinema room next door with all the girls where we got changed into our robes before being brought back into the room where the boys had changed, which I hear was a very silent and awkward moment for them. This is when Rob broke the news to us, standing in a line and flashing would just be awkward and ruin the vibe of the event and so it had been decided that all the dates would be had naked. Que the mix of shock with a slight undertone of I’m not even surprised in the slightest as we all made our way to a table for the first date. The room was extremely hot, great for the guys as there was no problem with junior wanting to hide from the cold, but not so great for us naked girls who had skin touching skin as it got a tad sweaty and you can’t exactly air out your crotch during a naked date now can you.

The moment of truth had arrived and there we were, 30 guys and girls all practically stripped down to nothing, three girls chose to keep their underwear as did one guy. Another guy had a contraption on his penis, lets call it a muzzle shall we as that’s all I could think of when I saw it. Moving swiftly on, aside from muzzle boy and one overly leant in guy who didn’t quite understand the prospect of personal space, everyone else was very respectful and just normal, down to earth people. Whilst the first few moments of the first date was met with nervous giggles from across the room, and a few uncomfortable starting exchanges the conversation was soon flowing. Once you’re naked on a date there really is nothing to worry about, you can forget awkward silences, worrying about what to wear or if you’ll say the wrong thing, when you’re stripped bare there’s nothing more to worry about, the worst is over. I found a sense of liberation come over me and I found I confidently went into conversations, on all different topics that I wouldn’t have necessarily have talked about on a date.

Halfway through the dates we took a break, a chance to grab some drinks, have a catch up with new found friends and you could put your robes back on during this part if you wished to. I met the girls at the bar, where the bar women had taken her shirt off in support of us all (but couldn’t take her bra off as it would have become a “different type of establishment”) and we ended up leaving our robes at our tables as it now felt weird to interact with everyone with any form of clothing on. We were now at the other end of the spectrum and felt more comfortable around each naked. We were even hugging each other and then after thinking right yeah we just naked hugged and what, and it didn’t even faze any of us when a guy wandered past the bar with a massive erection.

Once the dates had all ended Rob collected the score cards where you could pick Yes, No or Friend, and there’s no pressure or awkward moment after where you put yes and they put no as it’s all uploaded privately online. You receive an email the following evening confirming whether you received any matches and have the option to message them if you’d like to meet up again. A friend match is where one of you has pressed friend and the other has pressed yes, or you’ve both pressed friend, basically you want a yes. If anyone puts no then you never see any reference to them again, but make sure you put your picture on your online account because after having 15 mini dates in the space of a few hours you can forget who was who.

We were told we could have another 15 minutes or so to mingle naked but then we would have to get dressed, to which a number of us actually groaned. We had all clearly embraced this nudist life we were living in that moment hidden away from the world in an upstairs room in Balham. Afterward we could either go home or stay downstairs for a few more drinks, and whilst it seemed that we all actually became a bit less confident once the clothes were back on and names became fuzzy a handful of us did stay for a few. Whilst I didn’t find the right guy for me that night I was extremely proud when one of the girls grabbed me to say goodbye because she was getting into a taxi with her favourite from the night, go on girl!

I have not been confident about my body for quite a while as I’ve put on weight over the past 18 months but Naked Speed Dating invoked a part of me I had long forgotten. I felt liberated, I felt confident, I was getting compliments, and not just on the nipple piercing which is usually the go to for a lot of guys. But there was even a point where one of the girls who had kept her underwear on came to find me at the end just to say she wished she was as brave and confident as I was. Me? The same girl who had been shitting it not a few hours before thinking why did I ever agree to this, the girl who didn’t want to look at herself naked let alone have a complete stranger looking me up and down judging me. And yet off the back of this event I was so busy enjoying the feeling of self love and confidence that I have since booked myself on for another Naked Speed Dating event.

On the 19th April and 3rd May Date In A Dash are holding another two Naked Speed Dating events and I really think this is going to hugely take off and be extremely popular, proven more so by Rob telling us that it was the fastest selling speed dating for male tickets where usually they are struggling to get the guys in. If you don’t think you’re quite at the level of Naked Speed Dating I would definitely encourage you to attend one of the other events hosted by Date In A Dash. Alongside standard Speed Dating they also host quirky events like Drunk Jenga, Dirty Pictionary, and Ball Pit Speed Dating. I need to read up more on that one because honestly how does that work, and it sounds like a lot of fun.

In the fast-paced world we now live in it’s hard to actually meet someone without being drunk in a club or hitting up a random dating app but with Speed Dating you can meet between 15 and 25 singles in the space of a few hours. You could meet the love of your life or have the worst 4 minutes ever, but that’s it! 4 minutes with someone that you didn’t have to spend an entire evening with and never have to see or hear from again, or like I said it could be the turning point for you and you could find the one. All the events have age breaks so you don’t have to worry about being sat across from someone old enough to be your grandad or young enough to have you wondering if they are old enough to hit up a 21 plus venue. Even if it’s just as a laugh or something new to do with friends I would definitely recommend Speed Dating, and I would even more so recommend Naked Speed Dating. Be frivolous, be liberated, be confident, be you! Don’t life too seriously and just enjoy yourself because you only live once right. And personally I love that I can say “I went to the UK’s first Naked Speed Dating and I bloody loved it!”

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  • Reply Charli Bruce

    I absolutely loved this post! If I was single I know I wouldn’t be able to do this. I love how liberated it made you feel and I’m so glad you’re going to go again x

    March 28, 2018 at 7:26 pm
  • Reply Abi

    I am so proud of you for doing this! So brave! I loved reading about this and the confidence it gave you.

    March 28, 2018 at 7:47 pm
  • Reply Justin C

    A fantastic read T!! So very brave of you but sounds like a really liberating experience! xxx

    March 28, 2018 at 7:52 pm
  • Reply Rachael

    Wow I’ve never heard of this before. I definitely wouldn’t be able to do that. I commend you for being so brave

    March 28, 2018 at 8:56 pm
  • Reply Kamila

    I was so intrigued when i read the title and just had to read it – definitely did not wnd up disappointed, this sounds so interesting! I love that you found the confidence to do this, I’d like to believe that if I was ever brave enough to try this (and single) I would have that confidence to end up going through with it. Honestly it sounds like sugh a good idea, I hope more people get involved!

    March 28, 2018 at 9:40 pm
  • Reply Fran

    You are the bravest woman I know! I feel like if you can get out of your comfort zone doing something like this then I can push myself out of my comfort zone in day to day life. This event sounds like a really liberating experience, I may have to give it a go!

    March 28, 2018 at 9:58 pm
  • Reply Abbie

    SO BLOODY PROUD OF YOU!!! You are sensational and this was such a lovely read as well! Xxx

    March 28, 2018 at 11:07 pm
  • Reply Gemma Mayridge

    Kudos to you for that. I could never do it!

    March 29, 2018 at 7:03 am
  • Reply The Lavender Barn

    You are amazing babe, I hope they gave you wet wipes for the chairs LOL. xxx

    March 29, 2018 at 8:49 am
  • Reply Bee Nai

    I absolutely loved this post! I love how t first you were terridied but then embraced it – what an amazing and fun thing to do!

    March 29, 2018 at 10:40 am
  • Reply Steph Barraclough

    LOVING this post Tan. Super proud of you for putting yourself out there and going to this event. Sounds amazing xxx

    March 29, 2018 at 11:45 am
  • Reply Samantha Donnelly

    Wow well done for having the nerve to go through with it, I don’t think I would have been able to. At least naked speed dating takes away all the pretence.

    March 29, 2018 at 3:21 pm
  • Reply What's in my wonderland

    Great post! Love it! Nothing better than a bit of confidence! Keep at it!

    March 29, 2018 at 5:15 pm
  • Reply Chloe Eckersley

    Absolutely loved reading this post! So amazing that you did it xxx

    March 29, 2018 at 6:37 pm
  • Reply Sarah Bailey

    Oh my goodness how brave of you! This is something I could never do I have to admit but what confidence!

    March 29, 2018 at 8:04 pm
  • Reply Rhian Westbury

    Wow good on you for doing this, I’ve done speed dating before but can’t imagine how it would have been naked, I’m not sure I’d have wanted to see some of those guys in that sense x

    March 30, 2018 at 8:26 am
  • Reply Charli

    Its amazing how stripping off can make you feel liberated and more confident in your body! Everyone here looks fantastic and it sounds such a great night.
    C x

    March 30, 2018 at 9:02 am
  • Reply Mellissa Williams

    I enjoyed reading this 🙂 Well done you on having the confidence to go to this

    March 30, 2018 at 9:07 am
  • Reply Bethany

    You must have so much confidence, not only that but what a great experience aswell.

    March 30, 2018 at 9:34 am
  • Reply Yeah Lifestyle

    I have never heard of naked dating before and this has been quite an interesting read. Kudos for you for being brave and baring it all. So glad you enjoyed the session.

    March 30, 2018 at 1:46 pm

    Wow you were brave. I don’t think I’d have ever had the confidence to do this , even before I had my kids.

    March 30, 2018 at 2:57 pm
  • Reply Stephanie

    I really appreciate your confidence. I have never done this before, and maybe, I won’t do it.

    March 30, 2018 at 3:16 pm
  • Reply The London Mum

    Go you! That sounds amazing, and well done for doing it. I went speed dating before settling with my other half but this would have made things so much more fun! lol

    March 30, 2018 at 3:28 pm
  • Reply Ellie phillips

    Firstly thats a very different type of experience haha and secondly i dont know how you have the confidence to do that!! You go girl, such a good read to find out about these things that ive never once heard of. I do love the concept of it!

    March 30, 2018 at 5:19 pm
  • Reply Bryanna Skye

    this is such a unique approach to dating – I don’t know if I would have the confidence (or maturity haha) to do this, but sounds like an unforgettable experience and definitely an ice breaker!

    March 31, 2018 at 9:51 pm
  • Reply Lilinha

    I’ve never heard about Naked Speed Dating before but it sounds like an interesting way to meet new people.

    April 1, 2018 at 1:49 pm
  • Reply Jem

    Oh wow! I’ve nevee heard of anything like this before. Well
    Done you for getting stuck in!

    April 2, 2018 at 7:20 am
  • Reply Kara

    Oh goodness, this would be my worst nightmare but I can see why it would be fun for the younger generation

    April 2, 2018 at 8:06 am
  • Reply Andrew

    Incredible experience. Why didn’t anyone think of this idea before now. Sounds like a winner to me.

    April 2, 2018 at 6:58 pm
  • Reply Nayna Kanabar

    I have never heard of a naked speed dating event . Furthermore I admire your guts to attend such an event. Hats off to you.

    April 2, 2018 at 10:16 pm
  • Reply Melanie

    Wow deffo not for the faint hearted. Not something I would do, but for those that want to why not x

    April 3, 2018 at 7:24 pm
  • Reply Kelly

    You are SO brave for doing this. I won’t even let people see me without eyebrows on.

    April 11, 2018 at 7:47 am
  • Reply Alice Megan

    This sounds absolutely amazing I can’t believe you did it! I’d be terrified, I really do need to get involved with some kind of speed dating though it sounds super fun

    May 5, 2018 at 11:35 am
  • Reply Louise McEwan

    Wow this sounds like an interesting evening… I have organised a few speed dating events in the past but none like this one… interesting!

    July 23, 2018 at 10:56 pm
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